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Feb. 4th, 2019
Imagine This
Feb. 4th, 2019 05:31 amvia http://bit.ly/2DSJ5dW
ineffectualdemon:
the-nerdy-aspie:
lordhellebore:
oh-dear-discrimination:
martytries:
exopolitico:
tabbitcha:
sum-mermaiid:
anti-feminist-pug:
Imagine that your partner has been hitting you. Yelling at you. You’ve been married for a few years, you’re both in your 30s, you have a little daughter, and everything you do seems to be wrong. You’ve been made fun of, mocked and belittled by your partner.
But you need them, because you can’t take another failed relationship. You can’t be alone again, and they’ve got you convinced that all the beatings and scratches and scrapes are your fault.
You tell your friends and they laugh. No matter how many bruises or cuts you show them, it’s still your fault, so you hide them. You feel trapped, but you don’t feel like you can escape. You’re convinced that you’re just locking yourself in.
And you see online one day an article. Someone else went through what you have. They got the cuts, the bruises, the scratches. You see that here is hope and freedom from these beatings. The physical and emotional pain can go away, there is someone there to help!
So you write down a list of 10 abuse victim hotlines, for people being abused. And you call them one by one.
If you were a man:
6 of those hotlines would refuse to help because of your gender.
3 of those hotlines would refer you to or give you a number to a hotline dealing with people that abuse and are looking to stop.
1 of those hotlines would help.
Out of those 10, 2 of those would also laugh at you or say you deserved it.
If you were a woman:
10 of those hotlines would help.
Abuse is very scary, but what seems scarier to you; being abused, reaching out and getting the help you need, or being abused, reaching out and getting laughed and turned away over 60% of the time because of who you are?
Only 8% of men who call abuse hotlines find them ‘very helpful’ and get the assistance they need.
Women can abuse. Men can be abused. Men need equality and help too.
Wtf is this trash lol
how is this trash?
All they could say is “this is trash” because this study was written and published by a woman with a PhD and is comprehensive and heavily sourced.
Just to add some quotes found in the study from men who tried to seek help:
• They laughed at me and told me I must have done something to deserve it if it happened at all.
• They asked how much I weighed and how much she weighed and then hung up on me…I was told by this agency that I was full of BS.
• They accused me of trying to hide my “abuse” of her by claiming to be a victim, and they said that I was nothing more than a wimp.
• They didn’t really listen to what I said. They assumed that all abusers are men and said that I must accept that I was the abuser. They ridiculed me for not leaving my wife, ignoring the issues about what I would need to do to protect my six children and care for them.
And maybe the saddest one: They just laughed and hung up the phone.
Man can be abused too , this is not trash
My father had to suffer hell for years , and he ended up in hopsital too because of my mother . So don’t you dare to say that a man can’t suffer from abuse because that’s bullshit. It happens , it can happen to everyone . And the fact that people are not willing to help is just sick
This breaks my heart.
This is a conversation just as important as the conversation about abused women. We need to have it far more often.
As a woman who was abused by another woman I often feel invisible and marginalized in the discourse about abuse.
So when I see posts like this I reblog them instantly.
NO ONE should have their experiences mocked, belittled, dismissed, or erased.
As a woman who, when I was staying home on prom night, got a surprise visit from a male friend and had to cradle him as he sobbed curled up in my lap as he detailed the months of psychological, emotional and physical abuse he suffered at the hands of his girlfriend - fuck anyone who doesn’t believe men can be abused
I was the first person who listened to him and who believed him
I was the first one to call it abuse
I was the first one who told him he shouldn’t put up with it and I was the person who supported him through his breakup with her
Because of that I was the person he brought his other friends to when one of them was raped by the same girl months later.
He stopped me in the quad and reassured his friend I would listen. I had 5 frightened 18 year old boys crowded around me telling me what happened and clinging to the validation I gave to their trauma.
No one else outside of me and that group would acknowledge it as rape or as wrong.
No one else was willing to give them comfort
Men can be victims of abuse at the hands of women and they need to be listened to and believed
Let’s also consider that men face abuse through the criminal system. I’ve seen a lot of posts about men in abusive relationships, and they all, ALL mention their abusive partner threatening to report them for domestic violence.
ineffectualdemon:
the-nerdy-aspie:
lordhellebore:
oh-dear-discrimination:
martytries:
exopolitico:
tabbitcha:
sum-mermaiid:
anti-feminist-pug:
Imagine that your partner has been hitting you. Yelling at you. You’ve been married for a few years, you’re both in your 30s, you have a little daughter, and everything you do seems to be wrong. You’ve been made fun of, mocked and belittled by your partner.
But you need them, because you can’t take another failed relationship. You can’t be alone again, and they’ve got you convinced that all the beatings and scratches and scrapes are your fault.
You tell your friends and they laugh. No matter how many bruises or cuts you show them, it’s still your fault, so you hide them. You feel trapped, but you don’t feel like you can escape. You’re convinced that you’re just locking yourself in.
And you see online one day an article. Someone else went through what you have. They got the cuts, the bruises, the scratches. You see that here is hope and freedom from these beatings. The physical and emotional pain can go away, there is someone there to help!
So you write down a list of 10 abuse victim hotlines, for people being abused. And you call them one by one.
If you were a man:
6 of those hotlines would refuse to help because of your gender.
3 of those hotlines would refer you to or give you a number to a hotline dealing with people that abuse and are looking to stop.
1 of those hotlines would help.
Out of those 10, 2 of those would also laugh at you or say you deserved it.
If you were a woman:
10 of those hotlines would help.
Abuse is very scary, but what seems scarier to you; being abused, reaching out and getting the help you need, or being abused, reaching out and getting laughed and turned away over 60% of the time because of who you are?
Only 8% of men who call abuse hotlines find them ‘very helpful’ and get the assistance they need.
Women can abuse. Men can be abused. Men need equality and help too.
Wtf is this trash lol
how is this trash?
All they could say is “this is trash” because this study was written and published by a woman with a PhD and is comprehensive and heavily sourced.
Just to add some quotes found in the study from men who tried to seek help:
• They laughed at me and told me I must have done something to deserve it if it happened at all.
• They asked how much I weighed and how much she weighed and then hung up on me…I was told by this agency that I was full of BS.
• They accused me of trying to hide my “abuse” of her by claiming to be a victim, and they said that I was nothing more than a wimp.
• They didn’t really listen to what I said. They assumed that all abusers are men and said that I must accept that I was the abuser. They ridiculed me for not leaving my wife, ignoring the issues about what I would need to do to protect my six children and care for them.
And maybe the saddest one: They just laughed and hung up the phone.
Man can be abused too , this is not trash
My father had to suffer hell for years , and he ended up in hopsital too because of my mother . So don’t you dare to say that a man can’t suffer from abuse because that’s bullshit. It happens , it can happen to everyone . And the fact that people are not willing to help is just sick
This breaks my heart.
This is a conversation just as important as the conversation about abused women. We need to have it far more often.
As a woman who was abused by another woman I often feel invisible and marginalized in the discourse about abuse.
So when I see posts like this I reblog them instantly.
NO ONE should have their experiences mocked, belittled, dismissed, or erased.
As a woman who, when I was staying home on prom night, got a surprise visit from a male friend and had to cradle him as he sobbed curled up in my lap as he detailed the months of psychological, emotional and physical abuse he suffered at the hands of his girlfriend - fuck anyone who doesn’t believe men can be abused
I was the first person who listened to him and who believed him
I was the first one to call it abuse
I was the first one who told him he shouldn’t put up with it and I was the person who supported him through his breakup with her
Because of that I was the person he brought his other friends to when one of them was raped by the same girl months later.
He stopped me in the quad and reassured his friend I would listen. I had 5 frightened 18 year old boys crowded around me telling me what happened and clinging to the validation I gave to their trauma.
No one else outside of me and that group would acknowledge it as rape or as wrong.
No one else was willing to give them comfort
Men can be victims of abuse at the hands of women and they need to be listened to and believed
Let’s also consider that men face abuse through the criminal system. I’ve seen a lot of posts about men in abusive relationships, and they all, ALL mention their abusive partner threatening to report them for domestic violence.
via http://bit.ly/2Ryjril
fell-reverie:
the-golden-ghost:
lets-talk-about-sects:
lookwhathappenedtomack:
fancynewaddress:
keyhollow:
thequadproject:
Why he light skinned?
Because Martin Luther was white and German.
did…
did someone confuse Luther with Jesus omg
I suspect they confused him with Martin Luther King
Oh no
I mean, I get mixing them up based on names alone, but I’m concerned about the people who think Martin Luther King Jr. routinely wrote with a quill or dressed like a Renaissance man.
FFS some people think Martin Luther King would be on board with the Republican party today, having him play dress up is nothing.
fell-reverie:
the-golden-ghost:
lets-talk-about-sects:
lookwhathappenedtomack:
fancynewaddress:
keyhollow:
thequadproject:
Why he light skinned?
Because Martin Luther was white and German.
did…
did someone confuse Luther with Jesus omg
I suspect they confused him with Martin Luther King
Oh no
I mean, I get mixing them up based on names alone, but I’m concerned about the people who think Martin Luther King Jr. routinely wrote with a quill or dressed like a Renaissance man.
FFS some people think Martin Luther King would be on board with the Republican party today, having him play dress up is nothing.
via http://bit.ly/2HPtCPY
beauregardnanners:
zarohk:
imagineanimorphs:
ladysugarquill:
imagineanimorphs:
Jk rolling: everyone lives happily forever with no problems
Ka applegate: only one of six main characters for sure survive and that’s just how it is on this bitch of an earth
George Weasley and Teddy Lupin would like a word with you
Okay but you don’t spend the entire series getting to know Fred and Teddy? Like my girl Rachel didn’t die to be compared to side characters
What gets me more is this:
Animorphs: Victory is only possible when we put aside our differences and work to achieve a community that is a good place to live for all, not just the elite. Military force should be used to leverage equal access and fair treatment for all
Harry Potter: If you kill Hilter, that ends racism and discrimination, and somehow cures all the social ills that led to the conflict. There is no such thing as neo-Nazis, modern Confederates, or racists without a leader. Also, self-sacrifice is only a gesture, and has no real cost.
Society isn’t derailed by any single person, and just killing one person doesn’t fix everything. Honestly, what upset me most about Lupin’s death is that in the epilogue we have no indication that things have gotten better for werewolves (or muggleborns, or oppressed groups in general).
Animorphs for president 2020
JKR: *reblogs TERFs*
KA Applegate: I love my trans daughter.
beauregardnanners:
zarohk:
imagineanimorphs:
ladysugarquill:
imagineanimorphs:
Jk rolling: everyone lives happily forever with no problems
Ka applegate: only one of six main characters for sure survive and that’s just how it is on this bitch of an earth
George Weasley and Teddy Lupin would like a word with you
Okay but you don’t spend the entire series getting to know Fred and Teddy? Like my girl Rachel didn’t die to be compared to side characters
What gets me more is this:
Animorphs: Victory is only possible when we put aside our differences and work to achieve a community that is a good place to live for all, not just the elite. Military force should be used to leverage equal access and fair treatment for all
Harry Potter: If you kill Hilter, that ends racism and discrimination, and somehow cures all the social ills that led to the conflict. There is no such thing as neo-Nazis, modern Confederates, or racists without a leader. Also, self-sacrifice is only a gesture, and has no real cost.
Society isn’t derailed by any single person, and just killing one person doesn’t fix everything. Honestly, what upset me most about Lupin’s death is that in the epilogue we have no indication that things have gotten better for werewolves (or muggleborns, or oppressed groups in general).
Animorphs for president 2020
JKR: *reblogs TERFs*
KA Applegate: I love my trans daughter.
its tuesday post cow tools
Feb. 4th, 2019 08:21 amvia http://bit.ly/2BhFcOa
iguanamouth:
sinbadism:
pw132:
when you die you understand this
I had a load of Far Side books growing up, and I used to put ticks or dots by each cartoon when I understood the joke. About 30% didn’t have dots and I assumed I would understand them as I got older. Hell no I never understood what the hell he was on about. Gary Larson was a pre-internet shitposter.
iguanamouth:
sinbadism:
pw132:
when you die you understand this
I had a load of Far Side books growing up, and I used to put ticks or dots by each cartoon when I understood the joke. About 30% didn’t have dots and I assumed I would understand them as I got older. Hell no I never understood what the hell he was on about. Gary Larson was a pre-internet shitposter.
Venomtime's Day 2019 prompt & letter post
Feb. 4th, 2019 12:56 pmvia http://bit.ly/2D5Eun8
cupidsbower:
There is no formal sign-up for the Venomtime’s Day fest – just post your gifts to the AO3 collection when you’re ready (by midnight 13 February). Everyone is welcome, and every type of fan work is welcome, as long as it’s focused on Eddie Brock and/or Venom from the movies or comics.
However, if you’re like me, sometimes it’s useful to have some prompts for inspiration during a fest. To take care of that, I’ve set up a post so you can leave a prompt or a link to a letter and hopefully inspire someone to fill it, or you might find a prompt that appeals to you that you want to fill. This is totally optional, but it’s there if you’re interested. :)
The prompt post is here: https://symbrock.dreamwidth.org/12822.html
If you don’t have a way of posting there, you can message me, or email me on cupidsbower at gmail, and I’ll post the prompt or post a link to a letter for you.
Happy festing!!!
cupidsbower:
There is no formal sign-up for the Venomtime’s Day fest – just post your gifts to the AO3 collection when you’re ready (by midnight 13 February). Everyone is welcome, and every type of fan work is welcome, as long as it’s focused on Eddie Brock and/or Venom from the movies or comics.
However, if you’re like me, sometimes it’s useful to have some prompts for inspiration during a fest. To take care of that, I’ve set up a post so you can leave a prompt or a link to a letter and hopefully inspire someone to fill it, or you might find a prompt that appeals to you that you want to fill. This is totally optional, but it’s there if you’re interested. :)
The prompt post is here: https://symbrock.dreamwidth.org/12822.html
If you don’t have a way of posting there, you can message me, or email me on cupidsbower at gmail, and I’ll post the prompt or post a link to a letter for you.
Happy festing!!!
Twitter love
Feb. 4th, 2019 01:06 pmvia http://bit.ly/2WERUzs
Stephen Basdeo @sbasdeo1
FollowFollow @ sbasdeo1
I love USSR anti-drunkenness posters. This one’s from 1958.
Translation:
“Shame! Got drunk, swore, broke a little tree, and now he’s ashamed to look people in the face.”
We’ve all been there? (CC @sovietvisuals)
Stephen Basdeo @sbasdeo1
FollowFollow @ sbasdeo1
I love USSR anti-drunkenness posters. This one’s from 1958.
Translation:
“Shame! Got drunk, swore, broke a little tree, and now he’s ashamed to look people in the face.”
We’ve all been there? (CC @sovietvisuals)
via http://bit.ly/2GpOVVF
Me: … you do realise the last time we saw Tony reacting to someone writing a bad article about him, they were in bed together, right? Tony would be more likely to call Eddie up for a booty call.
Me: … you do realise the last time we saw Tony reacting to someone writing a bad article about him, they were in bed together, right? Tony would be more likely to call Eddie up for a booty call.