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issues-of-thepresentday:
readbythestarlight:
pimpinchilton:
certain-sunshine:
guatemalarita:
sleepbby:
everyone knows that kids w divorced parents can have a rlly tough childhood but honestly let’s take a moment and consider the kids who’s parents never got divorced yet kept fighting and arguing every day… sometimes divorce is for the best option, both for partners and especially their kids
My mom says we can never understand what it’s like to grow up with one parent but we have always told her conversely she doesn’t know what it’s like to grow up with two parents who are physically and emotionally abusive towards each other
Divorce is not the worst thing that can happen to your marriage and it’s definitely not the worst thing that can happen to your kids.
Yeah, the reason studies say divorce is terrible for kids in because they compare them to kids with happy parents instead of kids with parents who should be divorced. When compared to the latter group, kids with divorced parents do better.
Actually we talked about this in one of my psych classes recently, and studies show that kids with parents who stay together in an unhappy marriage actually DO adjust worse than kids who’s parents divorce. “Staying together for the kids” doesn’t actually help if the parents are unhappy with each other.
what about the parents that get divorced and still hate each other?
They’re not around each other enough for it to matter, and if they’re not completely shit parents they can put up a show of being polite to each other for the 0.6 seconds they spend in each other’s company.
It took me until I was in my late teens to work out that my parents really disliked each other, because they’d divorced when I was 5 and were careful to be fair and decent to each other around me and my brother, regardless of how they really felt.
issues-of-thepresentday:
readbythestarlight:
pimpinchilton:
certain-sunshine:
guatemalarita:
sleepbby:
everyone knows that kids w divorced parents can have a rlly tough childhood but honestly let’s take a moment and consider the kids who’s parents never got divorced yet kept fighting and arguing every day… sometimes divorce is for the best option, both for partners and especially their kids
My mom says we can never understand what it’s like to grow up with one parent but we have always told her conversely she doesn’t know what it’s like to grow up with two parents who are physically and emotionally abusive towards each other
Divorce is not the worst thing that can happen to your marriage and it’s definitely not the worst thing that can happen to your kids.
Yeah, the reason studies say divorce is terrible for kids in because they compare them to kids with happy parents instead of kids with parents who should be divorced. When compared to the latter group, kids with divorced parents do better.
Actually we talked about this in one of my psych classes recently, and studies show that kids with parents who stay together in an unhappy marriage actually DO adjust worse than kids who’s parents divorce. “Staying together for the kids” doesn’t actually help if the parents are unhappy with each other.
what about the parents that get divorced and still hate each other?
They’re not around each other enough for it to matter, and if they’re not completely shit parents they can put up a show of being polite to each other for the 0.6 seconds they spend in each other’s company.
It took me until I was in my late teens to work out that my parents really disliked each other, because they’d divorced when I was 5 and were careful to be fair and decent to each other around me and my brother, regardless of how they really felt.